What do relationships look like for a learner who craves input? On the good side, they end up being a brilliant conversationalist who always asks relevant questions and is always interested in the other person. They are known as a friend and gain trust of others easily.
But last night I discovered a down side. I was talking to Ben and he accused me of using my strengths of Input and Learner to “deconstruct” him. He felt like my questions (which just seem like normal conversation to me) made him feel like he was being dissected like a specimen.
Perhaps that is because he has had a year of being my closest friend at school and being subjected to a million questions.
Perhaps it is because he shares stuff with me that he doesn’t share with anyone else and on some level that bothers him.
Perhaps he responded that way because he is an introvert and his love language is quality time, and that quality time to him does not necesitate conversation.
I don’t know, but I can’t wait to ask him about it the next time we talk. Just kidding.
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August 31, 2007 at 11:42 am
Sam.
Very funny!
We have a friend of ours called Vic with input and learner and have since christened him “Vicipedia”.
How are you doing?
September 1, 2007 at 2:01 pm
carriearcos
I’ve been reading your posts and they’re very insightful. Love the one about Pride and Prejudice. I’ve been on a jane Austen kick since I saw Becoming Jane. This week I watched Mansfield Park, but Pride and Prejudice is one of my favorites and it’s a great read. I love how God spoke to you thru the story.
September 13, 2007 at 1:00 pm
halfmoon
lol i know exactly what ur talking about
input and learner are about 5 and 6 for me. but im also quality time. people can get frustrated with how i ask questions.